Life

Dear little L

A WP friend wrote a post today with a letter to her before-pain self and I thought it was high-time I did the same.

http://noonegetsflowersforchronicpain.wordpress.com/2014/04/02/gained-pain-lost-value/

 

Dear Little L

You are so naïve and impressionable. You have been so sheltered from the real world, but not for much longer. You are starting to feel the repercussions of an adult life intruding on your carefree childish ways. You have been asking for help; but it is beyond their abilities to see your true self. No one will tell you this, but you are perfect the way you are. You are learning, and growing and still see the whole world ahead of you. I wish I could tell you that things will stay simple… I wish I could prepare you for how un-simple things will get…

I know your world has just changed. No one will tell you how or why; but even now you know that something is wrong with you. 

Broken….

Slut…

Nasty…

Crybaby…..

Crazy……

No one will explain to you that it was natural. That you’ve done nothing wrong. That this thing that happend TO YOU, does not need to define you. No one will protect you from the rumors and gossip, no one will explain that this doesn’t make you less-than. That you are still whole, and beautiful and perfect.

But you are. No matter what they tell you, or how they make you feel; you will realize it one day.. you are still GOOD. DON’T LISTEN TO THEM…. You are also worthy of love. From this day on you hold in your heart that no one will take someone who is broken like you are.. Let that go.. Just be a kid, you still have time!

You will see one day how wrong they were, you WILL see that this thought-pattern is that of a scared and ashamed little girl, and not the truth. That the shame poured on to you from vengeful school kids is tought by vengeful parents. You don’t know this now, but even adults can be bullies…. Keep your head high little girl.

I know how scared and vulnerable you feel. You have been asking for help for so long now. Your body has become not your own; and your mind wants to badly to leave and find it. Before you even had a chance to explore this new growing body and try to reclaim it from the past; pain will come.. and it will come hard.

You do not deserve this. You did nothing TO deserve this. And the fact that no one will believe you or help you is NOT YOUR FAULT.

You’re feelings are still real, your worries are still valid, do not let them tell you otherwise. Stick up for yourself. I know you feel like you can’t; that you have tried and that you have been let down by everyone you know. You will let this shape your path for a while. And while this pain will follow you for the rest of your life; you need to know now Little L that it doesn’t have to.

I know you will try to deny this, to fight it.. and worst of all you will try to run from it. You cannot. You must accept this body with all it’s flaws and weaknesses. You must accept this beautiful shell that houses beautiful thoughts.. and you MUST never let any changes to that shell, steal those thoughts.

If I could go back in time it would be the one thing that I would need to let you know… You can run from this all you want but all you are doing is making yourself tired.. You are going to need that energy little one.. and you are wasting it trying to run from fate.

It hurts so much knowing that I cannot straighten your path. That I must let you follow the dark trails that will lead only to more pain… But Little L.. You will resurface. You will make the right choices (even if it takes you a while). Don’t give up! Keep forcing change, let those in your life who cannot see the truth leave, and do not hold their hate in your heart. You will find new supports, rocks, life rafts.. and you will one day realize that you deserved love and kindness the whole time. That those early markers.. don’t make you.. they may have helped shape you, but you can move past them. You can flourish, you can choose light over dark.

You DESERVE light over dark. You deserve an easy life not filled with pain and sadness and terror.. but you are going to have to fight for that reality. You are going to have to crawl, scrape and bleed to reach that normalcy and you will be knocked down time and again.. I wish I could tell you it get easier, but that would be a lie. It never gets easier. It gets harder and harder and harder, and then harder still. Your relationships, your job, your body, and your spirit will pay the price until one day there is nothing left of any of them. But when you reach that day you will see that even if everything else goes you still have your light. And that light will sprout new relationships, and jobs, and will allow your spirit to blossom again and your body to form new shoots. IT WILL. JUST GIVE IT TIME

But now.. just out of highschool and already telling yourself you are worthless, you do not deserve love, or kindness, or sympathy. You already feel you are nothing. And you are making choices that prove you are nothing because no one will tell you otherwise. I know you have lost everything you think defined your life, and I’m sorry to tell you it will be years before you realize that YOU define your life.

But YOU DO.. I PROMISE

It’s ok. Just breathe… This too shall pass… (or so they tell me)

 

 

 

 

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