8 things: What not to say.
I’d like to add the following:
“Let’s just go/get on with it/do this/deal with this later” – uhhhh no do you not see that I just shut down completely… I need to be sure that we ALL know whats going on and have resolved any miscommunications before I LITERALLY can even think about moving….
Starting any sentence with No.. and then continuing on… fuck that. you say your thing just fine without needing to cancel me out before you even start…
Can I say something without offending you…. No. the answer is just no. You know it WILL offend. So just talk like fucking adults and dont force an extra 30 seconds to a minute of awkward staring while my anxiety increases to 100000000 because who knows it might be the time someone straight up tells you you smell or that they hate you… FUCK
And lastly this isnt a thing to say perhaps but if you are with
someone who experiences anxiety ANYONE when they are stressed or anxious AT ANYTIME. Do not PULL OUT YOUR PHONE FOR ANY OTHER REASON OTHER THAN 3-4 MISSED CALLS IN A ROW. Finish what you are doing/saying/aqguing about and say I must take this call/message/email and I will return in a moment. then go take your whatever and then return and say “hey sorry, technology sure is a pain eh? what were we two humans talking about?”
Straight Men Explain Things to Me.
We all know that women are history’s favourite scapegoat. They are scapegoats because straight male privilege has dictated that the easiest way to do this, if they can’t be, at least in our country, raped, beaten, flogged, circumcised, stoned, drowned in wells or burnt at the stake, then they can, at the very least, be mocked, chastised, forced to live up to unrealistic beauty standards and have their experiences completely and utterly invalidated.